Category Archives: Journal Issues

From The Bench. ‘The case of the exemplary cross cultural family’

At GOLDENROOM we are well acquainted with personal stories of opposition to a cross cultural relationship. Indeed it is these difficult experiences that inform our ethos and reason for being.For couples in a Mixed ‘race’ or Mixed Faith relationship opposition, unpleasantness and scrutiny can come in the forms of family, employers and wider society and even when dealing with government officials. For many whose love transgresses boundaries of race, faith and ethnicity it is undeniably a  difficult, sometimes perilous undertaking. This is amplified considerably when the couple is crossing more than one boundary, as is often the case, for instance both parties are from different faith and ‘racial’ groups.

In this perplexing case From The Bench, we look at a cross cultural dynamic that is rarely explored or acknowledged and that is the particular difficulties when in a same sex cross cultural relationship. Homophobia and discrimination of homosexuals is a near universal problem. Add into this dynamic, the mixing of ‘races’ or faiths and it can be a combination that can ignite fierce opposition even amongst the most placid.

This is precisely the situation Nazma and Sarah Jane found themselves in, despite the fact that Nazma’s family had a long history of being integrated into British society and tolerant of diversity. All in all, Nazma’s family were an example of pluralism, and no one could have predicted the rabidness of their response to their sister’s same sex cross cultural relationship.

http://goldenroom.co.uk/issue/february-2014/article/from-the-bench-the-case-of-the-exemplary-cross-cultural-family

Strange Bedfellows:Homosexuality and Homo Eroticism in Ultra-Nationalist Movements

 “Homophobia and Anti-Semitism are part of the same disease.”

Rabbi Bernard Mehlman

As the gay community around the world marks the 80th anniversary of the Gay Holocaust in Nazi Germany,  the impetus of extreme nationalism to purge itself of homosexuality is far from historical. As the  documentary, ‘Hunted’ for instance, revealed, violent, state sanctioned, homophobia, is a contemporary reality. More recently, anti gay legislation in Uganda and Nigeria is in fact a licence to hunt homosexuals.

Yet this rabid homophobia is marked by the fact that it is driven less by blind prejudice than by hypocrisy, denial and most surprisingly homoerotic subculture. It is also, even more uncomfortably, marked by collusion between homosexuals and rabid nationalists. From Nazi Germany to contemporary neo- Nazi movements, from right wing ultra nationalism in Russia to most intriguingly of all the Taliban, the dovetailing of extreme nationalism and ultra masculine ideologies with homoeroticism and same sex love is perplexing as it seeks to purge homosexuality and the feminine even as it embraces it.

http://goldenroom.co.uk/issue/february-2014/article/strange-bedfellows

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GOLDENROOM New Issue ‘Love &Relationships’

A warm welcome back to a new year and a new issue for GOLDENROOM Online Journal for Cross Cultural Relations.

And what could be a more heartfelt return than this month’s issue theme of ‘Love and Relationships’.

Our cover story this month is one of love across caste boundaries and comes from Premnath Sambavaar who is still faithfully waiting for the day his wife, Sindhu is returned to him.  We examine the case of another family, this time in the United Kingdom who were also bound and determined to prevent their sister having a Mixed ‘race’, Mixed faith, same-sex relationship, in our article From The Bench, ‘The case of the exemplary cross cultural family’.

On a joyful note, we welcome contributor Tim Sullivan. Tim has been married for thirty years to his Japanese wife, Kurumi, so they are well qualified to share some essential tips for cross cultural marriages in ‘Married to an Alien. Can Cross Cultural Love Conquer Culture?’. And DHANAK in India will be celebrating Valentine’s Day with a gathering of over 300 Inter Faith couples.

To be even more relationship savvy peruse the hard hitting research of Ben Acheson on the difficulties adoptees have in forming healthy relationships. Or pick up GOLDENROOM’s recommended read this month, from Dr. Phil McGraw on fixing your relationship with yourself and your partner. On the political and human rights front we have conducted some bold research in: ‘Strange Bedfellows. Homosexuality, Homoeroticism and Ultra Nationalist Movements’.

We expect that a few cross cultural matches will likely be made at Chef Ali Amla’s Indian Cookery Course and also have advice for Great First Dates from GOLDENROOM Dating. www.dating.goldenroom.co.uk . A three month GOLD membership with GOLDENROOM Dating is still only £59.70 so making a cross connection couldn’t be easier. If you aren’t single then perhaps consider buying this for a friend. After all doesn’t everyone like to travel to a wedding abroad?

And finally, please take a moment to nominate GOLDENROOM at the National Diversity Awards, so that we can continue to help you and yours celebrate your Cross Cultural relationships.https://nominate.nationaldiversityawards.co.uk/Nominate/Search/4

Kind Regards,

Dr. W.J.Tuinstra

Editor in Chief

GOLDENROOM

Online Journal for Cross Cultural Relations

http://www.goldenroom.co.uk

 

 

‘I Shall Not Hate’

Start your week with GOLDENROOM’s recommended read , ‘I Shall Not Hate’, is an insightful and inspirational book by Gaza doctor, Izzeldin Abuelaish whose trascendant faith kept his devastating loss from turning to hatred.

Offering a rare glimpse into life in Gaza, and the tensions with Israel and within Palestine itself, ‘I Shall Not Hate’ is a bold declaration of peace and unity.

A moving story of one man’s struggles and challenges, which are simultaneously the struggles of all of humanity.

http://goldenroom.co.uk/issue/november-2013/article/curl-up-with-a-great-book-i-shall-not-hate-a-gaza-doctor-s-journey-on-the-road-to-peace-and-human-dignity

From The Bench: The Complex,Continuing Case of Leo Felton

GOLDENROOM’s take on the biracial racist terrorist, Leo Felton and how an obscure White Supremacist philosophy ignited a plot to rid America of the ‘mud people’.

http://goldenroom.co.uk/issue/november-2013/article/from-the-bench-the-continuing-and-complex-case-of-leo-felton

Happy Thanksgiving For All

This weekend is a special celebration for our friends in America and for American expats.  Thanksgiving celebrates both a successful harvest and the settlement of pilgrims in America, and is celebrated by other countries around the world too. However this year is a particularly special Thanksgiving, or Thanksgivukkah as it is now being coined because it coincides with the first day of the Jewish holiday, Hanukkah. This is because of the rare coincidence between the Hebrew calendar and the Gregorian calendar, creating in essence a double holida

While foodies on www.buzzfeed.com  have delighted in celebrating Thanksgivukkah with “How to Celebrate Thanksgivukkah, the Best Holiday of All Time,”  by offering  combinations of traditional recipes like Manischewitz-brined turkey with challah apple stuffing and latkes with cranberry applesauce, others have reflected more deeply on the significance of both Thanksgiving and Hanukkah.

Thanksgiving itself is similar to the Jewish harvest festival of Sukkot, but there is also a congruence with the importance of religious freedom in both Thanksgiving and Hanukka. In the Hanukkah story, Judah Maccabee leads the Hebrews to freedom from Greek oppression in the 2nd century. Thanksgiving in America celebrates the first harvest of Puritan pilgrims, who arrived in America fleeing religious persecution.  In European countries with histories of the Protestant Reformation, Thanksgiving commemorates the harvest as well as religious freedom.  This year, Thanksgiving and Hanukkah, are ideally merged in both time and significance.

Not all Americans however regard Thanksgiving joyously.  For many Native Americans (or First Nations or Indigenous People) Thanksgiving Day is considered a day of mourning which marks the beginning of genocide. The Pilgrim’s first harvest, celebrated in America frequently plays little of no regard to the role of Native Americans at that first harvest, or the subsequent decline in their wellbeing with the increase in settlers.

Paula Bidwell, a Native American observed poignantly that the Thanksgiving marketing strategy completely ignored any element of Native culture or history. For Bidwell and many Native Americans Thanksgiving meant pain and grief and anger; a collective memory of their loss, degradation and marginalisation in their own land.Not a day of giving thanks, but a day of regret.

Lea Gerlach, a descendent of the pilgrim colonists who settled in Plymouth, Massachusetts, in 1620 took Bidwell’s point to heart.  On Thanksgiving Day, instead of the usual prayer that her family sang around the table, Lea, also a Bahai, read a Native American prayer.

Even more remarkably, Bidwell and Gerlach inspired by their faith and the words of Black Elk, focused the anger, grief and historical trauma associated with Thanksgiving towards something proactive

Bidwell and Gerlach worked together to create a website, Many Hoops ,(www.manyhoops.com),  to debunk the myths and stereotypes of Thanksgiving festivities and focus instead on the humanity of the original participants, both Native American and pilgrim. The website presents stories, activities and recipes for a richer and more inclusive Thanksgiving celebration. The descendant of Native Americans and a descendant of Pilgrims found friendship and unity in reconceptualising Thanksgiving.  Their vision in Many Hoops, is a heart to heart between Bidwell and Gerlach but also an invitation for healing divisions and the guilt of the past in order to see a better, combined future.

Or put more eloquently yet, from Black Elk

‘Then I was standing on the highest mountain of them all, and round about me was the whole hoop of the world…And I saw that the sacred hoop of my people was one of many hoops, that made one circle, wide as daylight and starlight, and in the centre, grew one mighty flowering tree to shelter all the children of one mother and one father, and I saw that it was holy.’  

Black Elk

ICON Paul Coelho

Whether you read The Alchemist and were fascinated by the intricate life truths told in such a simple story, or whether the author’s cultural background of Brazilian syncretism resonate within you, we are sure you will agree that author Paul Coelho is an icon of cross cultural relations

From his writing, to his own personal journey, to the work he now does for his own foundation and UNESCO, be inspired this weekend by a life of reconciling extremes, of uniting the spiritual with the material, by reading about and learning from this month’s GOLDENROOM ICON Paul Coelho

http://goldenroom.co.uk/issue/november-2013/article/icon-paul-coelho

Coping With Paradox

All religions have some truth in them, but it takes courage to explore and test this and even more so in light of the fact that there are equally so, contradictory claims to truth or Paradox.

In this intimate recollection of her own search for meaning and to reconcile or at least cope with Paradox, GOLDENROOM’s Marjorie Crombie shares her remarkable cross faith experiences engaging with Divine Paradox.
http://goldenroom.co.uk/issue/november-2013/article/the-ability-to-cope-with-paradox1

Slavery and Human Trafficking: Modern, Pervasive and Gender Equal

 

Last week London police rescued three women who had been held as slaves, possibly for as long as thirty years.

Earlier in September, Ariel Castro, who had been sentenced to life in prison for kidnapping, raping and imprisoning three women, committed suicide in a prison in America.

Slavery, however isn’t always the stuff of extreme and dramatic headlines. Sometimes it is terribly banal.

Goldenroom’s timely article on slavery and human trafficking will have you thinking  about what you buy.

http://goldenroom.co.uk/issue/november-2013/article/human-trafficking-and-slavery-modern-pervasive-and-gender-equal