Monthly Archives: December 2014

Levant TV seeks people to talk about interfaith relationships

Anna from Levant TV is looking for people of Middle Eastern background either in interfaith marriages or the children of interfaith marriages to share their experiences with us on a discursive programme called Forbidden Talk.

Maybe they have happy relationships or perhaps they’ve faced
challenges with their in-laws?
She would love to hear their stories and join her in the show.

The episode will be recorded (not live) 17h-18h (London time) Thursday 8th January at their studio in Hanger Lane. They can organise transport to/from a central London location to the studio OR a fee of £60 for the guests’ time.
Email anna@levant.tv if you are interested.

THE RIGHT

TO BE

‘MIXED’

The twentieth and twenty first centuries have seen an exponential rise in the rights to assert identity and equality from numerous minority groups. These include the rights to be treated equality and not to be discriminated against, and movements for self-determination and self-governance, as well as a range of cultural rights. This trend has however been predicated on identity as singular, fixed, static, given and immutable characteristic with the natural consequence that some people will be excluded from these rights. Overwhelmingly it is people of Mixed or Multiple ethnic and cultural identities who have lagged behind the calls for identity rights and who have not been able to partake in and articulate the pursuit of their rights to Mixed or Multiple identities, let alone equality and non-discrimination. The assertion from other minority groups for their rights has not been extended to or widely taken up by the rights of people of Mixed race heritage.

People of Mixed or Multiple ethnic and cultural identities have a multitude of experiences and identities but they do have in common that they have often been marginalised from group rights asserted by other groups or forced to choose one identity over the other or have a singular identity thrust upon them. Rather than liberating the obvious advantages in being both, individuals of Mixed or Multiple ethnic or cultural identities have been denied the rights to their authentic cross cultural self. Research from Maria PP Root [1] demonstrates the jaw dropping negativity born of this fixation with and dominance of the singular, fixed identity directed at people of Mixed or Multi heritage, despite the fact that they are the fastest growing demographic. The monocategorical and monoracial system prevails in society, where it is one race or ethnicity, one religion per person and there is still little awareness or impetus to include and benefit from those people whose lives and selves transcend simple racial, religious and cultural categories.

Throughout history the dominant social and sociological, and frequently political position has been that people of different ‘races’ should never marry and have children. These children will belong to neither ‘race’ and their resulting identity confusion will be a profound disability throughout their lives. Various manifestations of the ‘one drop rule’ have been applied to individuals of Mixed ancestry, designating them as ‘Black’ or another disenfranchised minorities. The practice of hypodescent, alienated Mixed people from the privileges of the other half of their ‘racial’ or ethnic identity.

Parents of Mixed children often have similar experiences. They carry with them hostility from their families or ignorance of their communities to their relationship. Their children are symbols of the success or failure, the legitimacy or illegitimacy of the Mixed relationship. Like interracial couples, many Mixed faith, intersectarian and sometimes even dual national couples are discouraged from marrying and having families.

Roots’ study found that Mixed people commonly were told, “You have to choose; you can’t be both.”  Whilst some faced a sense of being claimed by the racial or ethnic group of one parent, the overwhelming experience for people of Mixed or Multiple heritage was rejection and hostility. In family relationships, many people of Mixed heritage were not accepted because their parents had an interracial or interfaith (or both) relationship.  Many faced allegations and denunciations by members of one of their cultures of not wanting to be part of that minority, for instance, not wanting to be Latino, Asian, Black or White and being told that ‘You think you’re too good for your own kind.”

Mistaken identity was also a common experience, for instance being assumed to be one particular race or religion because of one’s name or accent, or having a physical appearance that belied the fact that they were Mixed.  Mixed race children and their parents also reported facing confusion and disbelief that they were related, such as “Are those your children?”,  “Is that your father, how come he’s White?”,  “Surely you mean you are the nanny, not the mother?”, “ Your mother is a Goy, You are not a real Jew.”  Sometimes Mixed race people experienced attempts at compensation that belied the dominance of singular racial categories. They have been told, for instance that, “Mixed race people are so beautiful or handsome”, or that, ‘It’s nice that you don’t behave like other Black/ White/ Muslim,/Latino people”. Comments such as, “You look exotic” displayed the trend of fetishizing Mixed people.

Roots’ study demonstrated that social attitudes and political paradigms leave people of Mixed ‘racial’, Multi ethnicity or Cross Cultural heritage in an unclear and marginalised position between two or more singular, separate identities . Her response, borne from her research was to amend the dominant single identity assertion movements by creating similar rights for those people of Mixed or Cross Cultural heritage. The Bill of Rights for People of Mixed Heritage  (© Maria P.P.Root,PhD,1993,

1994) is both a response to and an autonomous expression of the right to be both. It reflects both the history of marginalisation and double discrimination as well as aspirations and a changing perception towards understanding and asserting their Mixed selves as individuals and a community. The Bill of Rights for People of Mixed Heritage reads:

I HAVE THE RIGHT…

Not to justify my existence in this world.

Not to keep the races separate within me.

Not to justify my ethnic legitimacy.

Not to be responsible for people’s discomfort with

my physical or ethnic ambiguity.

I  HAVE THE RIGHT…

To identify myself differently than strangers

expect me to identify.

To identify myself differently than how my parents

identify me.

To identify myself differently than my brothers and

sisters.

To identify myself differently in different

situations.

I HAVE THE RIGHT…

To create a vocabulary to communicate about

being multiracial or multiethnic.

To change my identity over my lifetime–and more

than once.

To have loyalties and identification with more

than one group of people.

To freely choose whom I befriend and love.

These twelve sentences encapsulate the struggles that Mixed and Multi ethnic people, have over generations and societies, faced. “Children of mixed marriages never had anything like this,” Roots said. “We have had feelings all along but not put into any kind of structure. It gives people something to talk about and feel recognized.” In 2000 the U.S. Census referred to Roots’ research in their deliberations that resulted in an historic ‘check more than one’ format to the race question. Roots has followed this up with the Multiracial Oath of Social Responsibility.

The Bill of Rights for Mixed People is a powerful and pioneering affirmation of Mixed and Multiple identities.  At first reading, it connotes a tone that it is acceptable to be Mixed, to exist as an equal person with a Cross Cultural heritage. Upon subsequent readings of the Bill however, the assertive tone seaps through with an affirmation that Mixed individuals have a right to exist in the world in a manner conducive to their own happiness and wellbeing and not that of others. In authoring this document, Dr. Roots fundamentally asserted that people of Mixed or Multiple ethnic and Cross Cultural identities do not need to bend and conform to other peoples’ racial or cultural expectations. They neither need to hide, apologise nor explain themselves anymore.

Human rights is a powerful language and transformative discourse. The inclusion of Mixed ‘race’ and Multi- ethnic people and those with Cross Cultural identities as stakeholders and the entitled is long overdue. The twenty first century has seen a flowering of Mixed people beginning to have an esteem and asserted sense of their own identity and community, which has sometimes been diffuse owing to the diverse experiences of being Mixed. The bold claim that Mixed ‘race’ and Multi-ethnic individuals have rights that others can neither give nor take away is a statement many have never before read or heard. The Bill of Rights for Mixed People is a revolutionary, powerhouse of wisdom and experience that can be used as both a rallying cry of solidarity and a tool for people of Mixed ‘race’, Multiple Ethnic and Cross Cultural identities to navigate the world with the same dignity and equality as all others.

SOURCES

Maria P. P. Roots

The Multiracial Child Resource Book. Seattle,WA: Mavin Foundation 2003

Reference


[1] Racial Experiences Questionnaire

Attracting International Clients: 5 Things You Need to Know

by

Caitríona Rush

 

Whether you sell physical products or knowledge, work nationally or internationally many of us would like to attract (more) clients from overseas. However, what many don’t realise is the extent to which culture affects the way we do business? We think “business is business”, right? Wrong! Your definition of doing business may be completely different to someone else’s. Being able to recognise the role culture plays in international business is crucial to attracting (and keeping) new clients. Here are 5 things you need to know about the company/person you want to do business with.

Relationship Building

It’s your first meeting with a potential new client. You may have already had a few phone calls or email conversations but so far no real business has been done. What happens now? Do you shake hands, maybe do a ‘5 minute introduction’ and then get straight down to business? Or, do you take the time (over several meetings) to get to know the person, building up trust and a relationship as you go along. You need to be sure that this is someone you want to do business with before commencing with anything.

How is Hierarchy Viewed

Some of us adhere to a strict hierarchy in society. This also goes for the working environment. Managers and senior staff are looked up to. Those ‘above’ you are accorded more respect and their opinions are the ones that matter. Disagreeing (especially in public) is frowned upon and showing initiative is not always a valued quality. At the other extreme are the societies where everyone is viewed as equal and all opinions are listened to.  Everyone should be respected equally and showing initiative is a valued attribute.

Mixing Business & Pleasure

‘Talking shop’ is a phrase often used when people talk about business outside of working hours, for example over lunch or during after work drinks. Some of us like to separate the two, work time is for work, private lives aren’t often discussed, and outside work is for ‘other’ stuff. Some societies on the other hand see everything as intertwined, business and pleasure will often be mixed, people talking about their private lives at work and work being discussed sometimes at great lengths over long lunches or dinners. Quite often important business is more likely to be conducted outside of ‘working hours’ and than in the office.

Preferred Communication Style

We all have different means of communicating and this also pertains to communications in the business environment. Some cultures prefer to say things as they are. Feedback and personal opinions are given “straight up”; directness and honesty being valued attributes. There are others however who prefer a more indirect approach, “less is more”; where the whole context of the situation bears relevance to the true meaning of the (sometimes few) words spoken. Great care is taken to keep harmony and not to insult.

Time Management

Are you a sequential planner? Where one task should be finished before the next phase can start? Some societies place heavy emphasis on scheduling and timing. Meeting times are precise and deadlines fixed. Other cultures however are much more relaxed about punctuality, deadlines are used as guidelines and often multiple tasks are carried out at the same time and plans may easily change as new circumstances crop up.

Having read the above it may be relatively simple to see where your own preferences lie. But, do you know where the preferences of your (potential) client lie? Do you know how they best prefer to do business? Understanding how clients view such topics as those described above and being able to reconcile cultural differences is crucial to a successful business.

For further information on successfully attracting and doing business internationally please contact Caitríona at caitriona@athomeabroad.nl

or visit the website www.athomeabroad.nl

 

This article first appeared in IAMEXPAT” http://www.iamexpat.nl/read-and-discuss/career/articles/international-clients-cultural-differences-to-remember